Victoria is almost 4. She never ceases to amaze me. She turns 4 on 2/19....she can write her name....which amazes me enough because it is so long. LOL! She has to think about it and spell through it a couple of times but she can do it! She can read 10 sight words:)
1. Stop
2. Go
3. No
4. Yes
5. The
6. A
7. I
8. At
9. Is
10. Ummmm....I can't remember? oh well...I don't have her flash cards with me right now.
She knows all her upper and lower case letters and what they sound like as well as most of her numbers 1-20.
Two days ago she proposed to me. HILARIOUS!!! That's the first time that has happened to me so it totally warmed my heart:) She wants to marry all the people she loves. It is too sweet and so very innocent. She loves to play with her Tag and her Leapster. Dear Leap Frog.....I love you!
She doesn't really like to learn with me so Thank God she loves to use these learning tools and is a sponge at school.
She adores church. If we ever miss she is devastated. Yesterday I didn't go because....like usual lately...Emily conked out at 9:15 and didn't wake until 10:30...I had no time to get ready. Kevin works every other weekend and he didn't get home until 10:45. I hate missing church. Victoria hates it more. She said...I really wanna go to church. When I told her we couldn't she cried. She loves Jesus:) She even says regular....out of the blue.... "I love you Jesus!....and you too God!" I've never met such a genuinely sweet child. She if full of love and empathy. She really does amaze me because honestly....I don't feel as much as she does. Maybe that is normal though considering as adults when tend to become hardened by our life experiences.
Victoria tends to pray multiple times during every meal. I adore it! I just cannot believe how blessed I am!
Victoria Rose....I love you little lady!!! Thank you for making me smile, laugh, cry, etc. every. single. day! You are a joy and my life is not complete without you!!!
My little lady that cannot watch Pocahontas before bed because she has nightmares. She is a gift....thank you dear God for blessing me and trusting me to raise this child of yours....that reminds me daily that she is your gift...your child...and not my possession.
Thank you dear God for the family she has been blessed with. She has been blessed with so many grandparents, aunts, uncles, cousins, and an amazing little sister (their love is the most beautiful thing I have ever seen).
Thank you for these 4 years of bliss my precious baby girl! I love you to the moon and back!!!
Tuesday, January 22, 2013
Tuesday, January 8, 2013
I'll admit it....I'm strict.
In this day in age we almost have to whisper it....I'm strict. I am though....especially by today's standards. I expect that my children will say "Yes ma'am" and "No, thank you" and "Excuse me." It is sad to me this is foreign. My oldest remembers to say the blessing before a meal even when we forget. She doesn't run around farting on people, having burping contests, or telling us what to do. Lord help her when...if... she tells one of us to "shut up."
My daughters are my most treasured gifts aside from my husband. I don't have to teach him though. He was already taught well my his mom. We have the job of teaching our daughters though. We don't take it lightly. We are not put on this Earth to be their friends. We want to joke and laugh with them of course but they...well, Victoria at least at this point, knows that our word is final. She says "Yes ma'am" and "ok, I understand." It is fairly rare that she chooses to throw a fit over something or tell us no. We have no warning consequence for no. She gets a swat right away...unless I'm having an off day and then the response she gets is "Excuse me. Would you like to try that again?"
Yes, we spank. Generally it's 1-2 swats on her butt with our hand that generally hurts her pride more than her butt. Emily gets her hand smacked once after several no's (just like Victoria did at the same age).
I expect respect and good manners from my children. Some would say I expect too much too young but I get exactly what I expect from them. If Victoria burps she says "excuse me." She says "May I please have....." Every once in a while she'll say such things as "Give me chewies (that's what she calls fruit snacks)." When this happens I am actually so taken aback I have to just look at her for a bit and then tell her that she doesn't command me and she can try to ask appropriately in a bit.
I miss children not yelling at parents and telling them what to do. I miss the times before Sponge Bob (that is like the worst cartoon ever in my opinion).
I respect my children too though....don't get me wrong. Victoria can choose what she wants to wear for the most part (I know everything in her closet is appropriate since I put it in there), she can choose what she wants to drink (because we only have milk or water around here), and I ask her opinion about supper quite often. I ask her what she wants to do often. I love her and I know she loves me and that she is not feeling in lack of love from her parents that are strict. She knows what is expected from her though and I think that is very important. She doesn't have to guess what upsets us or if she is allowed to do something. She knows when she acts out there are consequences.
Anyway....this is my ramblings just to say yes....I am strict. I am sure I have come across that way in previous posts so here's the confirmation. It's quite odd to me actually what a prude I have become when it comes to raising my children. The thing is.....the closer my relationship is with God....I have come realize that I am trying to raise his gifts in a way that would make Him happy. In a way that they treat everyone with love and respect....to always use the best manners possible. I have learned recently that, quite frankly put, having good manners is acting in a way that doesn't make others uncomfortable. If my girls are always on their best behavior and acting like ladies than they will most likely not be making others uncomfortable.
Sorry, this post is all over the place. It's something I wanted to share my feelings on but couldn't quite come up with a fluent way to do so.
My daughters are my most treasured gifts aside from my husband. I don't have to teach him though. He was already taught well my his mom. We have the job of teaching our daughters though. We don't take it lightly. We are not put on this Earth to be their friends. We want to joke and laugh with them of course but they...well, Victoria at least at this point, knows that our word is final. She says "Yes ma'am" and "ok, I understand." It is fairly rare that she chooses to throw a fit over something or tell us no. We have no warning consequence for no. She gets a swat right away...unless I'm having an off day and then the response she gets is "Excuse me. Would you like to try that again?"
Yes, we spank. Generally it's 1-2 swats on her butt with our hand that generally hurts her pride more than her butt. Emily gets her hand smacked once after several no's (just like Victoria did at the same age).
I expect respect and good manners from my children. Some would say I expect too much too young but I get exactly what I expect from them. If Victoria burps she says "excuse me." She says "May I please have....." Every once in a while she'll say such things as "Give me chewies (that's what she calls fruit snacks)." When this happens I am actually so taken aback I have to just look at her for a bit and then tell her that she doesn't command me and she can try to ask appropriately in a bit.
I miss children not yelling at parents and telling them what to do. I miss the times before Sponge Bob (that is like the worst cartoon ever in my opinion).
I respect my children too though....don't get me wrong. Victoria can choose what she wants to wear for the most part (I know everything in her closet is appropriate since I put it in there), she can choose what she wants to drink (because we only have milk or water around here), and I ask her opinion about supper quite often. I ask her what she wants to do often. I love her and I know she loves me and that she is not feeling in lack of love from her parents that are strict. She knows what is expected from her though and I think that is very important. She doesn't have to guess what upsets us or if she is allowed to do something. She knows when she acts out there are consequences.
Anyway....this is my ramblings just to say yes....I am strict. I am sure I have come across that way in previous posts so here's the confirmation. It's quite odd to me actually what a prude I have become when it comes to raising my children. The thing is.....the closer my relationship is with God....I have come realize that I am trying to raise his gifts in a way that would make Him happy. In a way that they treat everyone with love and respect....to always use the best manners possible. I have learned recently that, quite frankly put, having good manners is acting in a way that doesn't make others uncomfortable. If my girls are always on their best behavior and acting like ladies than they will most likely not be making others uncomfortable.
Sorry, this post is all over the place. It's something I wanted to share my feelings on but couldn't quite come up with a fluent way to do so.
Sunday, January 6, 2013
Life Lessons
Victoria got a book some time ago....I believe October 2011, from the Imagination Library. The book was actually written by Dolly herself, I am a Rainbow. I LOVE it! I particularly love this part, "It's not always up to you, the way that you feel. But how you act is a different deal."
So there we go. You really should forgive....the Christian idea of forgiveness is that you love them, don't wish them harm, don't be vengeful. Christian love is not speaking ill, doing good deeds, and praying for them. I have to say I have a personal issue in my life and I feel covered here. I have been questioned and accused of those that feel like I am against them (even though there is no reason for them to feel that way). I have been told that I don't apologize correctly and that I haven't really forgiven. Well, I have. I pray for them, I don't wish them ill-will, I tried to reach out and talk about our disagreements. No go. Oh well.I have learned in life that as long as you know who you are and what your intentions are it really doesn't matter what others think. You can't make someone that has no intentions of giving you a chance believe or understand you. God knows your heart. I guess that all has come with age as well. It still hurts and still makes you question yourself from time to time when someone has such horrible things to say about you. You just have to say oh well. So that all ties back to the "It's not always up to you, the way that you feel. But how you act is a different deal."
Sometimes we are hurt or mad but we can't act out. We forgive and we pray and hopefully discuss with the person that has hurt us or made us mad and we work past it. We don't ever treat others badly. Ever.
Oh....BTW.....I also loathe the whole..."don't let others control how you feel." Umm....okay. Well, that's really hard...especially when you want something to work so badly and the other party really doesn't care. Sometimes there are toxic people in our lives though and we have to recognize those people and just let them go. Forgive and move forward......in different directions.
That's a great life lesson. I try to tell her all the time that if she is sad or mad she can't act out. She's definitely allowed, encouraged really, to go sit by herself for a bit and think about her feelings, but she is required to talk about them. I'm so mad because..... Mommy you hurt my feelings by.....
I blame that on my mother. We had to talk about everything when I was growing up. I think it's a valuable life skill though to be able to verbalize why you feel the way you feel. In order to do that you have to know 1) what you are feeling and 2) why you are feeling that way. I feel it's important, necessary really, to be able to talk to the person you are upset with and work past it. I'm not the best at returning calls and such...(which makes people think I'm upset with them) so I have to say.....my sister and one of my besties are totally the same way. They will message me and say, "Are you upset with me? If you are, let's talk about it." I feel like it really shows you care when you want to talk about a problem and fix it. Sweeping a problem under the rug never fixes the problem....it masks it for a bit but it always raises it's ugly head again and usually in the form of the person that didn't want to talk about it is overly sensitive about everything. They didn't work past it so they think about it all the time.
Which leads me to that whole saying of "forgive and forget." That's a stupid saying. As humans we don't just say...."Hmm....I would like to hit delete on this event." That's just stamps it further into our memory. I really like this very long explanation. We can act like we forgot and not hold something against somebody, and maybe several years down the road we might forget, but it doesn't just happen. I also really enjoy the information about forgiving there. It jives with what my pastor says. You can forgive and move on in different directions. Hmm...really because in Matthew 18:21-22 it says I should forgive my brother not 7 times but 7 times 70. Well....it also says in Matthew 18: 15-17 15"If your brother sins, go and show him his fault in private ; if he listens to you, you have won your brother. 16 "But if he does not listen to you, take one or two more with you, so that BY THE MOUTH OF TWO OR THREE WITNESSES EVERY FACT MAY BE CONFIRMED. 17 "If he refuses to listen to them, tell it to the church ; and if he refuses to listen even to the church, let him be to you as a Gentile and a tax collector.
Sometimes we are hurt or mad but we can't act out. We forgive and we pray and hopefully discuss with the person that has hurt us or made us mad and we work past it. We don't ever treat others badly. Ever.
Oh....BTW.....I also loathe the whole..."don't let others control how you feel." Umm....okay. Well, that's really hard...especially when you want something to work so badly and the other party really doesn't care. Sometimes there are toxic people in our lives though and we have to recognize those people and just let them go. Forgive and move forward......in different directions.
Sunday, December 23, 2012
1 Year
Emily is 1. Where did the time go? She is actually almost 13 months!!!! Here is the photos I have promised:)
So we have birth to 1......1 is the biggest pic and newborn is right under it.On the side there is 3, 6, 9 months.
She still thinks she is soooooo funny! She cracks up all the time, she loves being chased, she loves hugs and kisses and blowing kisses.
She has 4 teeth...V had 8 at this time so it's a bit different. She was 16 lbs. and 27" at her 1 year appt. which puts her about 4% for weight and 7% for height. She's tiny. How do I....at 5'10" have such teeny little girls?!?!
I loves her though.....she and her sister are my life. That will be discussed in my next 3.....yes you read that right...3 posts. I am going to post about if I had to list things in my life how they would be listed, I will talk about toxic relationships, and I will talk about, motherhood of course!
Monday, November 26, 2012
I'm back....maybe;)
Soooo.....my school work is basically over:) Hopefully that means I will be back on here a lot more. I really do have a lot to share! Like how Victoria is growing like a weed and is super sweet......when she's not throwing a fit for no particular reason. She really is the most thoughtful child I have ever met.
Emily is almost 1:-( I'm not sure how that happened. She is rotten! I'm going to put together a timeline of her first year. I can't wait to share that!!!
My new personal flaw I am working on is learning that I don't have to make people understand me or believe me. It's a hard one but I don't have to defend myself. When someone has a falsity in their minds..... you can't convince them. Just let it go. It eats at me. It sucks. I'm going to learn indifference though:)
The same old flaw is I need to make time for me and workout. I have GOT to get the jiggle out of my wiggle!
Hopefully this is not like the other times that I planned to get back on here and didn't really quite make it:)
Emily is almost 1:-( I'm not sure how that happened. She is rotten! I'm going to put together a timeline of her first year. I can't wait to share that!!!
My new personal flaw I am working on is learning that I don't have to make people understand me or believe me. It's a hard one but I don't have to defend myself. When someone has a falsity in their minds..... you can't convince them. Just let it go. It eats at me. It sucks. I'm going to learn indifference though:)
The same old flaw is I need to make time for me and workout. I have GOT to get the jiggle out of my wiggle!
Hopefully this is not like the other times that I planned to get back on here and didn't really quite make it:)
Tuesday, August 28, 2012
Toy Guns
Okay...let's see...how to put this delicately...
I am not for toy guns......at all.
I am not for toy guns because I feel that children do not learn the importance of actual guns. We own guns. Well...the hubs owns guns. He's a hunter and he protects our home (he's our alarm system). I am not against gun ownership at all. I am 100% for it. I hope to eventually have a gun of my own as well as a carry permit. I want my girls to learn about guns. I want them to take hunter safety courses and if they choose to hunt more power to them. I want them to respect guns. I do not want them to think of them as toys. Guns are not...I repeat ARE NOT to be pointed at a person ever in a joking manner. I don't care if it's a neon colored water gun that is obviously a toy....you NEVER point a gun at a person in a playful, joking manner. Now they have water "guns" that look nothing like guns and those I'm okay with. There are Nerf guns that look nothing like guns and those I'm okay with. I guess that is weird. If it is a long cylinder "water gun" it looks more like a water pump (so to say) to me that I'm fine with it.
Maybe....just maybe...AFTER my kiddos learn all about guns and the dangers associated with treating them wrongly then I might (but probably not) be okay with it. I am 100% okay with my girls having a BB gun at a young age...not now..but older...because that is a fairly safe manner for them to learn about guns and what they can do. Guns are dangerous. I firmly believe guns don't kill people....people kill people. I think gun education is very, very, very important and thus... I don't want them to be toys for my girls....guns just aren't toys. Dolls, games, balls, puzzles....those are toys. Guns are weapons to be respected.
I am not for toy guns......at all.
I am not for toy guns because I feel that children do not learn the importance of actual guns. We own guns. Well...the hubs owns guns. He's a hunter and he protects our home (he's our alarm system). I am not against gun ownership at all. I am 100% for it. I hope to eventually have a gun of my own as well as a carry permit. I want my girls to learn about guns. I want them to take hunter safety courses and if they choose to hunt more power to them. I want them to respect guns. I do not want them to think of them as toys. Guns are not...I repeat ARE NOT to be pointed at a person ever in a joking manner. I don't care if it's a neon colored water gun that is obviously a toy....you NEVER point a gun at a person in a playful, joking manner. Now they have water "guns" that look nothing like guns and those I'm okay with. There are Nerf guns that look nothing like guns and those I'm okay with. I guess that is weird. If it is a long cylinder "water gun" it looks more like a water pump (so to say) to me that I'm fine with it.
Maybe....just maybe...AFTER my kiddos learn all about guns and the dangers associated with treating them wrongly then I might (but probably not) be okay with it. I am 100% okay with my girls having a BB gun at a young age...not now..but older...because that is a fairly safe manner for them to learn about guns and what they can do. Guns are dangerous. I firmly believe guns don't kill people....people kill people. I think gun education is very, very, very important and thus... I don't want them to be toys for my girls....guns just aren't toys. Dolls, games, balls, puzzles....those are toys. Guns are weapons to be respected.
Thursday, August 9, 2012
Oh hey there....
Ummmm......Hi there!!!!
Long time no blog huh? Sorries bout that!
I was working on school and stuff and it basically consumed my life. I had planned on getting done in enough time to have 2 months off but that didn't happen. I might have procrastinated just a tiny bit since I was having some anxiety about leaving my babies. Well....not that I want to leave V every day but she'll rock it. E on the other hand....not so much. I'm gonna cry.
I was going to do this great post about her being 6 months a while back but..umm..yeah....she's 8 months now!!!! Crazy stuff right there! She's growing...not sure of her length at present but she is 13 lbs. 2 oz. She's a whopper...I know, I know...how do I even carry that chunk around. LOL!
She makes the funniest faces right now and she's crawling all over the danged place! She's pulling up and that's fun. Especially when she pulls up on an empty box and it smacks her in the forehead. Ohhhh....or she pulls up in her crib at night while half asleep and no clue on how to get down. Good stuff. I'm so going to miss that little booger every day:*(
Victoria...dude...she's a mess! What in the world has gotten into that kid?! She's pretty clinging and whiney lately. She's having a hard time with something....just not sure what it is. All I can do is hold her and cuddle her though. She super sad we can't go back to the beach right now but seriously....I start student teaching on Monday!!!!! I am 15 weeks from applying to graduate. That is madness!!!!!
That is a little catch up kinda. I'll blog about more old things tomorrow night maybe. I'm at a loss as to what to do with my nights now that they are crammed with school work. That'll change soon. I want to tell you all about our most fabulous vacay though!!!!
About today though.....Dollywood!!!!! I loves Dollywood! We went all.the.time when I was little. It was greatness. Then I didn't go for a very, very, very long time. The hubs got his hands on some free passes though and so this year we went. I upgraded to a super gold pass a few months back (that sounds impressive.....it's just one pass that gets you into regular Dollywood and Dollywood Splash Country with free parking and 20% off stuff). Well, so today the hubs used the last one and went with me and the girls. We got there around 10:30 and we ran walked (because what adult runs to a ride....no me I'm sure) to the newest ride....The Wild Eagle. It was AWESOMENESS!!!!!!!!!!! That doesn't even convey it. Hubs rode by himself and then I rode by myself...we took turns sitting with the girls and there was like no line so it was fast:)
Then it was all about rides V could ride until it started raining around 2. We tried to stick it out...but it wasn't in the cards. We gave up and left around 3:30. The girls passed out on the way home. V had sooooo much fun.....I had sooooo much fun. Even little E was bouncing in her carrier and smiling pretty much the whole day. It was the BEST day I could have asked for and really what I needed before going to teach.
Thank you dear Lord for a fabulous day!!!
Everyone...go to Dollywood and ride the Wild Eagle!!!!!
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